Sunday, February 28, 2010

Our Deepest Fear...

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond all measure.

It is our life, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.

Your playing small doesn't serve the world. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

--Marianne Williamson

Friday, February 26, 2010

The Real F Word

Today on facebook someone posted an article about a woman who was murdered because she was stalked by a man who was obsessed with her. That man took her life, and sadly, this is the norm for so many women as domestic violence is rampant in our country. You wouldn't believe it, but the numbers are frightening, and nobody talks about it. It effects all women of all races and social classes. In reflecting on this horrible, and unnecessary event and what it means, it makes me think about how very important feminism is.

I guess it's time for me to "come out" on this blog as a feminist. Feminism is considered a bit of a dirty word, especially it seems in Christian circles (in my experience). That's why I usually refrain from using that word for the most part, because people carry such negative assumptions about what it means. The thing is, feminism is of utmost importance, and is so vastly misunderstood. Feminism is this beautiful idea that maybe we're all equal and should be treated the same and with the respect that each human being deserves--regardless of your race, social class, gender, sexuality or what have you. Don't think you're a feminist? Take this quiz:

1. I think women and people of color should be allowed to vote.
2. I think women and people of color should be allowed equal access to jobs and education
3. I think men should be involved in their children's lives.
4. I think all people are equal/should be treated equally.

If you said "yes" to any of these questions then say it with me...I....am...a...feminist (in the simplest of terms). I love feminism because it has given me so much: I had this fantastic realization that maybe I was more then my body weight, and just maybe I didn't need to be in a relationship to determine that I was valuable. Maybe I WAS smart. Maybe men didn't have to live up to this silly expectation of being "real" men--maybe they could be compassionate and loving--maybe they were more then violent, angry muscle "manly" men. I would have told you all of these things pre-fem Jess, but I don't think I really believed it. Feminism has made me appreciate the full worth of human beings, and helps me make the world a better place for those who are undervalued and have been cut some bad breaks just because of their social status. The biggest reason I love feminism is that it has given me my faith back. I think I see Jesus a lot more clearly then I used to, and that is a beautiful thing. I can see a kinder, gentler Jesus who loves people equally. I think because of the beliefs I carried about men and masculinity, and what I had been told about it in church, I never really thought I could really know Jesus fully. He seemed sort of mean. We say we believe in equality today, but if we look at how we really treat people who are poor or of a different race or gender and what the unconscious assumptions we carry about them, we'd find that maybe we're not as egalitarian as we think. I say "we" because I am part of the problem. But we are so much more then our genders, and I think feminism looks beyond the social expectations and wants people to move past stereotypes and wants them to be whole human beings, not limited to one set of characteristics for one particular gender. One of my favorite professors from college wrote this article, and it has been one of the most pivotal readings in my college career (and I love it because it is so simple). After I read this article it made me look at Jesus in such a different way...and realize that maybe feminism wasn't as bad as I thought it was. This is why I can believe in Jesus, because He was (is) the only one who could completely treat people as equals. I love this because it's just that simple.

"Why I am a Feminist" by Dr. Kevin Neuhouser (September 2006)

Because Jesus is.

That's the short answer, but hardly a very satisfying one without some explanation. After the flurry of attention to gender issues on campus last spring, I decided to study how Jesus treated women. So, this summer I read through the four gospels and noted every single recorded interaction that Jesus had with women. From the gospel accounts, I can only include that Jesus was a feminist.

Now, I know full well that the term "feminist" did not exist when Jesus walked in Palestine. But according to the gospels, Jesus treated women in ways that meet the basic definition of the term. Although there are many different kinds of feminism, differing on both the explanation for why the problem of gender inequality exists and how it can be solved, at the heart of every feminist is the belief that gender equality is to be valued and pursued. Thus, the basic idea of feminism is simply that women should have access to the same resources and opportunities as men and that they should be treated with the same respect as men. And this is exactly what I found Jesus doing in the gospels.

In his recorded interactions with women, Jesus incarnated three basic feminist principles: 1) In his teaching ministry, Jesus presented the same content in the same form to women and men, and 2) Jesus never relegated women to the domestic sphere, and 3) Jesus fully incorporated women into his ministry.

Teaching:
The gospel writers focused the majority of their content on Jesus' teaching ministry. Never once, in all the accounts, whether teaching large crowds or individuals, did Jesus present separate gendered messages to men and women (e.g., women should be/do one thing while men should be/do something else). In every single case, Jesus presented a single message that demanded a single response from both women and men. The required response for everyone was faith and obedience. And Jesus recognized and praised women's responses to this teaching message, implicitly calling his male listeners to live up to women's righteous examples (e.g., the Canaanite woman of "great faith," the widow who gave God her last penny, the woman who anointed Jesus at Bethany).

Not only did Jesus teach the same message to men and women, he also taught women and men in the same way. Jesus never "taught down" to women or patronized them by softening the message, In fact, at times Jesus seems almost rude to women as, for example, when he pushes the Canaanite woman to express exactly why he should heal her daughter (Matt 15:21-28). In doing so, Jesus demonstrated a belief that women had the same spiritual and intellectual abilities as men and therefore could be pushed just as hard to use and develop them fully (e.g. the Samaritan woman, John 4:1-41).

Spheres:
In none of the gospel accounts is there a single example of Jesus separating men and women into mutually exclusive spheres of activity--women to a domestic sphere of caring for men and children, men to a public sphere of work and ministry. In fact, when Martha tries to enlist Jesus in her attempt to force her sister Mary back into the kitchen, it is Martha who is reprimanded and Jesus announces that it is Mary, who is sitting with the male disciples to listen to Jesus, who "has chosen the right thing." (Luke 10:38-41). In addition, all four gospel writers record that not only male disciples, but also many women left homes and family to follow Jesus in his traveling ministry. Some of these women even supported Jesus financially from their own economic resources. Neither Jesus not the gospel writers express any concern that this choice to leave the domestic sphere might be inappropriate behavior for women. In fact, Luke (8:1-3) reports that these women "were with Jesus" in the same way as "the twelve." Thus, Jesus provides no support for a division of women and men into separate spheres as an act of Christian obedience.

Ministry:
At the core of the gospel "good news" is the pronouncement that "Christ is risen!" This is fundamental to the message that Jesus' followers have been commanded to share with the whole earth. Thus, it is striking that on the morning we now call Easter, Jesus first entrusts this message, not to the male disciples, but to his female followers (Luke 24:1-11). Jesus gives the women who have come to the tomb instructions for "the Eleven," in effect, making them apostles to the apostles. Mary magdalene, Joanna, Mary the mother of James, and the "other women" obey Jesus' instructions, but then something unfortunate happens--the men fail to believe the women "because their words seemed to be nonsense." Luke implies that the men are at fault for their disbelief because the women faithfully relayed "all these things" that Jesus had spoken to them. At the very beginning of the Church era, then, male followers of Jesus underestimated women's Christ given role in the ministry of the gospel, unable to believe that Jesus could or would use women to instruct men.

Thus, Jesus--in his teaching, in his refusal to divide women and men into separate spheres, and in his incorporation of women into the fundamental ministry of preaching the good news--fits the definition of "feminist," a man who treated women as equals to men. Unfortunately, men who follow Jesus today face the same temptation as his first male followers--to fail to hear the voice of God speaking through women who are faithfully accepting their full equality in Christ.

If Jesus was a feminist, then I need to be one too. (end)


I also love this article. It gives me hope on so many levels:

http://community.feministing.com/2010/02/the-greater-gain-and-the-great.html#more

Thursday, February 25, 2010

"It's Been a Long Night in New York City...It's been a long night in Boston too..."


2 Johns in one week. Jon Bon Jovi and John Mayer that is. Last night I got to head up to Bean Town to see who some claim is one of the greatest guitar players ever. NO BIG. I don't know if this is true, but I will tell you he surely impressed me. I don't know that this is saying much since I only know how to play about 7 guitar chords, but still. We rode the train in (and who doesn't love some good ol' public transportation...you always end up with good stories). Now, I was a little sleepy mind you, as I hadn't slept the night(s) before due to my redeye flight from Seattle, however my adrenaline was pumping and I perked right up when John popped on stage. Our seats were REALLY good... basically as good as it could get without being on the floor, so with a pair of binoculars I probably could have seen his nose hairs had I wanted to. He is an interesting man and at one point asked the crowd if they had dreams, and did their dreams consist of being able to sit around all day and watch video games and get high?! Hmmm. When I think of the word "dreams" that particular scenario does not come to mind, but to each his or her own I suppose. MY BEEF: No "Slow Dancing in a Burning Room." Wha?!



Perhaps the only downside to the night was the itty bit of guilt I felt knowing that John has been full of unsavory drunken remarks and has been in the midst of a media storm if you will as of late. I'll be honest, it would not hurt him to eat a giant piece of humble pie granted that he did say some "tool-ishy" things during the concert. INCONVENIENT TRUTH. My RA's informed me this only weeks before the concert, to which I kept saying "ahhh I don't want to hear it!" Seriously, of all the times of the year to make ridiculous remarks it had to be now, and given that I am a person who has been known to boycott things as I know that I should be ethical with my $$$ spending, this did put me in distress and in a bit of an ethical pickle indeed. JOHN: I was THIS close to not coming, man!!! However I did my best to separate Musician John from Tool John. Love me some Musician John...Tool John needs to simmer down. It's so hard caring about things like equality and humanity sometimes. Sigh. Ignorance is indeed bliss.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

He Came, He Sang, He Conquered

Well, Bon Jovi LIVE in concert has come and gone, and let me tell you, what a spectacular event it was! That man has not lost his vigor after 25 years. Plus, it is fun to go with sociologists because they talk about fun crowd phenomena like "Theory of social proof." And it is fun to go with a mother who is as gung ho of a fan as you are. Of course Bon Jovi is really more of an experience then an event, and Jon left me with some important life questions. For example:

1. Why in the WORLD is David Bryan (keyboardist) the ONLY one who hasn't had a haircut in 25 years? Long curls are SO out man!
2. Is Jon Bon Jovi a Calvinist? ("Only God would know the reasons, but I'll bet He must have had a plan, you were born to be my baby, and baby I was made to be your man...)
3. How does that man have four children given that he wears such tight leather pants and has been doing so for an incredibly long time?
4. Would global warming be such an issue had the 80's/AquaNet never occurred? As much as I love them, I hold the band slightly responsible.

These of course are all important life questions that I have yet to answer, but I'll let you know as soon as I figure it out. In order to appease what I am sure is your own insatiable appetite for homemade Bon Jovi live concert videos, check out this:





A Small Aside

I find it throughly sad that Valentine's Day came and went before I had a chance to give my loved ones these suckers:


I mean, how loved would I have felt if someone would have given me a Detective Stabler/Detective Benson valentine card that said "We make a great team?" (NOTE for next year) Please note that there are a few that are troubling that I don't condone, however some of them are very clever...

Hello, Seattle

As you have most likely guessed, my Seattle trip has come and gone. It was a pure delight, just as I had anticipated. The weather was gorgeous, the sights glorious, the memories fantastic. But the thing I love most about Seattle? The food. This should come as no surprise to you, as I throughly, and may I reiterate throughly enjoy food consumption in any form. Here are some of my favorite Seattle bites:

Trophy!!!!
"The Hummingbird" Cupcake
"Thanks a Latte" (hehe)
A new Macrina discovery: Banana chocolate chip pecan coffee cake (MONEY)

It is OK to wipe the drool from your chin...I am.

Pano-ramo-mania!

So, I recently discovered that my camera has this REALLY cool "panoramic" function (multiple examples below). I've had this camera since August, however being a person who loathes instruction manuals and tends to haphazardly discover that various electronic devices are capable of more then she thought, this was a delightful finding and came around just in time for my Seattle vacay. Thus, here is my Seattle panoramic series:

Classic Shot from Kerry Park
Greenlake
Near Kerry Park
Watching the Olympics at Heather's House
Key Arena
Outside Macrina
Inside Macrina
Gasworks Park